Day 160 - The Loss of a Child: Bitterness and Blame

365 daily emails to help you through the grieving process Grief support groups: Click here to find a GriefShare group near you. If you would like to find a group for a friend or relative, try our Search Page. Want to read ahead or resend a previous daily email? Click Here The Loss of a Child: Bitterness and Blame Day 160 "The bottom line is no matter whom you point a finger at and expect that person in some way to take the blame or pay you back—there is no way this will bring closure or peace to your heart," says Shelly, whose son died. Another person cannot bear your pain for you; only Christ can bear your pain. She continues, "In the same way, you can't pay God back for your sins. It took the blood of Christ to wash them because you can't pay back for what you've done, and it becomes a futile battle that leads you into a spiral of bitterness that could just choke you. "So greater and quicker is the healing to rise above it and just say, 'Lord, let me walk in the light of understanding today that You're with me, that You love me, that it's okay.'" Let it go. Free yourself from the bitterness and blame that will ultimately consume you. Write down Shelly's words and repeat them as a daily prayer: Lord, let me walk in the light of understanding today that You're with me, You love me, and that it's okay. "Come … let us walk in the light of the Lord…. The people walking in darkness have seen a great light; on those living in the land of the shadow of death a light has dawned" (Isaiah 2:5, 9:2). Lord, You're with me, You love me, and it's okay. Amen. Grieving with Hope This GriefShare-based book contains short, topical chapters addressing issues that grieving people face but are often hesitant to mention to others; it gently guides people to determine whether they're grieving in a way that leads to hope and ultimate healing. Look for Grieving with Hope by Samuel Hodges and Kathy Leonard at a local or online bookstore or at griefshare.org/hope. If you would like to recommend these daily emails to a friend, please click here and choose one of the options under Share. For more information about GriefShare, including how to sign up for these daily emails, please click here. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved. Copyright © 2003-2013 by The Church Initiative, Inc., All rights reserved. No part of this material may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying and recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without explicit permission in writing from Church Initiative. You subscribed to this daily email through www.griefshare.org. We value your privacy! We will never give, sell, rent, or otherwise share your email or personal information with any other organization — EVER. To remove this email address from further mailings Click Here while connected to the internet. If you have any problems or concerns, please contact dailyemailsupport@griefshare.org. GriefShare 250 S. Allen Rd. Wake Forest, NC 27587 (800) 395-5755